I am a survivor of what I would call “mild” childhood abuse and sexual molestation. Back then the way I was hit as a child (by my Nanny) was considered discipline and my molestation was done by another boy on the school bus. As “mild” as I like to think my abuse and molestation was, it had a profoundly negative impact on my life and in how I had allowed people to treat me, until I started to learn how to REALLY heal. And by the way not only in how I allowed others to treat me but the ways in which I inflicted self-abuse and the ways in which I tried to cope with extreme self-hatred and self-loathing.
There is something called little “T” trauma and bit ”T” trauma. The above is what would fall in to big “T” trauma as well as the obvious things you think of as trauma. I.E. PTSD. Little “T” trauma however, can be just as damaging and it doesn’t just have to be from childhood. It can happen at any point in a person’s life. An abusive relationship in adulthood, whether it is verbal or physical can be every bit as traumatic as being bullied and teased as a kid (both of which I have gone through). One of the most important things I had to do in order to heal from my trauma was to validate the trauma that happened and the affect it had on my life.
Learning to love myself and how to have a loving relationship with myself have been two of the most important things I’ve learned in my life. The most important relationship in my life is the relationship I have with myself. It hasn’t been easy and it’s never perfect but I am lightyears ahead of where I used to be.
The love that I’ve learned to have for myself was something I needed so badly but never realized it. The more that I love myself, the more I can radiate that love to all who I come into contact with.
We are all mirrors, we really are all one and the same, and we all bleed red. Not any one of us is any better or worse than the other. To embody this fact, is to embody true humility. Again, I’m not perfect at it but I can tell you that some very significant things have happened in my life, since having the embodiment of humility as one of my goals.
One is I attract more love in my life as a result. That is just the way the universe works. Also, because I love who I am, faults and all, I don’t take crap from anyone anymore and I am much gentler on myself when I make a mistake. People always talk about self-love but how do you get it? What can you actually do to get it and keep it? You can read about that in the “Heal Your Soul Now Freedom Program” in the “offerings” section.